Coach Ryan's Corner: This is the day of the expanding man

It seems like I’ve started treating Coach Ryan’s Corner as “Ryan dissects music lyrics to prove a coaching-related point.” I’m a nerd, what can I say?

Few songs really speak to my soul more than this one. This time, I’m not referring to Yea Alabama.

Steely Dan’s Deacon Blues tells a story of a man who feels downtrodden by life. He gazed through the glass, looking at people living a big life. Y’know, ramblers and gamblers.

He has no support and love. They call him crazy and a fool. He wants to learn to work the saxophone. His friends basically tell him to get drunk on Scotch whisky and die behind the wheel.

I could dissect every line and every verse of that song. And believe me, I have.

I play this song in times of celebration.

  • The first time I played that song for celebration was after my beloved Crimson Tide won their 13th National Championship in 2009.
  • The second – when I received my proof copy of Written in the Stone.
  • The third – after I passed my Accomplishment Coaching exams. Oh, I’m walking down the waterfront in Downtown Manhattan, singing that song at the top of my lungs and crying my eyes out.

This song brings out tears of celebration every time. Lots of tears.

It’s an important song for me. My late father speaks to me through that song.

The more I dissect the words to that song, the more present I am to something incredibly special.

What is a king?

A king is many things. But primarily, a king lives his life on his own terms. A king lives his life at his own speed.

The song’s protagonist is living a life beneath him. He wants to learn to work the saxophone. He sees that as the way he can be a king.

The final line of the final verse gets me every time. And notice I haven’t mentioned the name drop of my Crimson Tide…

"This brother is free.

I'll be what I want to be."

That is a king. Does he ever become a star sax man? Does he ever get the record contract? The live concert album at the Blue Note?

We don’t know. But he’s free from his peasant life. And he’s free to be what he wants to be.

 

A king is the expanding man.

 

Notice that I’ve been using words in this newsletter like “king” and “peasant”. Keep these in mind. I’m going to make a big announcement next week in this space around that.

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This is the day of the expanding man. Let’s be kings and queens.

Coach Ryan's Corner: Love Comes In Time

My novel, Written in The Stone is titled after two main pieces. The first piece, you’ll have to find out by reading. But the second part is this… In 1979, Earth, Wind, and Fire released their seminal album I Am. And the lead off track is still a staple of their live shows almost 40 years later. In The Stone has a refrain of “true love, peace, strength – is written in the stone.” That’s where the title comes from. And it’s quite thematic to the book. But WITS is really about love. The love my protagonist has for the people in his life and for the world at large. “Love comes in time/chasing away the pain. Inside you’ll find/feelings you can’t explain.” Long-time EWF mainstay Ralph Johnson put out a side project a few years ago called Audio Caviar. The album is phenomenal overall. It’s jazz heavy with some certain world music influences. But the first time I heard the song Love Comes in Time, (featuring Howard Hewett on lead vocals, the incomparable Philip Bailey on backup vocals, and the EWF horns laying down some soul) my reaction was immediate. I cried like a baby. When I first heard it, I’d just been dumped by the woman I thought was the love of my life. I was even low-key looking for a diamond. Granted, this was a blessing in disguise, but I was miserable on many different levels after this. This song tells the story of a man who is at the end of his rope. And the rope might be around his neck. The lesson of the song – and the lesson I’d like to impart on you reading – is this: be patient. There’s no timetable or timeline for finding love. If you trust yourself, the universe, and if you love yourself, then love will find you. “Love comes in time. It’s never too late, you’ll see.” I’m seeing this come true in my own life. And as the law of attraction states – like attracts like. Royal people attracts Royal people. Are you Royal? Let’s talk! Oh, and stop what you’re doing right now and listen to that song. Get on Apple Music, Spotify, or YouTube and listen to this song. RIGHT NOW! And really let it in. It’ll change your life. It changed mine.

My novel, Written in The Stone is titled after two main pieces. The first piece, you’ll have to find out by reading.

But the second part is this…

In 1979, Earth, Wind, and Fire released their seminal album I Am. And the lead off track is still a staple of their live shows almost 40 years later.

In The Stone has a refrain of “true love, peace, strength – is written in the stone.” That’s where the title comes from. And it’s quite thematic to the book.

But WITS is really about love. The love my protagonist has for the people in his life and for the world at large.

“Love comes in time/chasing away the pain. Inside you’ll find/feelings you can’t explain.”

Long-time EWF mainstay Ralph Johnson put out a side project a few years ago called Audio Caviar. The album is phenomenal overall. It’s jazz heavy with some certain world music influences.

But the first time I heard the song Love Comes in Time, (featuring Howard Hewett on lead vocals, the incomparable Philip Bailey on backup vocals, and the EWF horns laying down some soul) my reaction was immediate.

I cried like a baby.

When I first heard it, I’d just been dumped by the woman I thought was the love of my life. I was even low-key looking for a diamond. Granted, this was a blessing in disguise, but I was miserable on many different levels after this.

This song tells the story of a man who is at the end of his rope. And the rope might be around his neck.

The lesson of the song – and the lesson I’d like to impart on you reading – is this: be patient. There’s no timetable or timeline for finding love. If you trust yourself, the universe, and if you love yourself, then love will find you.

“Love comes in time. It’s never too late, you’ll see.”

I’m seeing this come true in my own life. And as the law of attraction states – like attracts like. Royal people attracts Royal people.

Are you Royal? Let’s talk!

Oh, and stop what you’re doing right now and listen to that song. Get on Apple Music, Spotify, or YouTube and listen to this song. RIGHT NOW! And really let it in. It’ll change your life.

It changed mine.

What is Stucktitude?

What is stucktitude?   This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.   Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.   Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.   But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.   The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.   But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!   You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.   Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

What is stucktitude?

 

This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.

 

Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.

 

But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.

 

The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.

 

But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!

 

You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.

 

Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

Copy of What is Stucktitude?

What is stucktitude?   This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.   Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.   Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.   But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.   The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.   But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!   You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.   Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

What is stucktitude?

 

This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.

 

Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.

 

But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.

 

The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.

 

But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!

 

You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.

 

Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

What is Personal Freedom?

Today’s episode of Coach Ryan’s Corner is coming out on July 6th. For my American readers, this means the day after Independence Day.

As you’re waking up out of your hot dog-induced comas, I’d like to talk about little about Freedom. And not the Freedom in the “’Merica” context. But Personal Freedom.

What is Personal Freedom?

 

When was the last time you did something bold? Boldness in service of moving your life forward in a powerful way?

I made a choice a couple days ago. This is a choice that will move my life forward powerfully. But it’s a choice that really scares me.

My first instinct when I get into situations like this is to look for permission to make this choice. Retroactive permission.

I made the choice and immediately asked two people in my life if it was okay to make this choice. If I made the right choice.

And it became apparent this is a pattern for me. This is a path that I take on a regular basis. This path takes away my power and puts it back in the hands of those from whom I seek validation.

See where I’m going with this?

I’m a big boy. I’m 40 years old. I’m intelligent and capable of making my own choices. And the fact that I let my past dictate how I make my choices is something that I’m not incredibly proud of.

The moral of this story is this: personal freedom is the idea that your past has no bearing on your now. As long as you’re not harming yourself, others, or are outside the law somehow, you can choose what you want to choose without having to get permission from anyone.

Freedom from the constraints of your past – that’s Personal Freedom!

What is Magic?

What’s the thing most people think of when I ask you “what is magic?”

Do you think Harry Potter? Kreskin? Copperfield?

Okay, maybe not with the disappearing planes and the like.

I used to think and believe that’s what magic was. That magic was hocus pocus, alakazam, voila, bovine excrement.

This was until I met Emily Perkins.

Emily and I graduated from Accomplishment Coaching together this past January. By that point, she had already become one of my best friends.

 

The first time she spoke to us, I thought she was nuts. Here’s this crazy chick standing up there talking about magic and I thought she was nuts.

That was until I spoke to her. That confirmed she was nuts, but I was picking up what she was putting down.

In the year and a half I’ve known her, more than anybody else, she's taught me that magic is real and powerful.

And all magic is, is living from your highest purpose. In other words, living from love.

With that in mind, I’m thrilled to announce that we’re partnering on a podcast.

On Magic Time, we’ll support and help you create some magic in your everyday life.

Magic Time: coming to iTunes in Early July. Watch this space for when you’ll be able to download the first episode and subscribe!

 

But until then, follow us on twitter at twitter.com/magictimepod or email the show at magictimepodcast@gmail.com.