Coach Ryan's Corner: Let's Get Real

Let’s get real with each other.

I’m serious, let’s get real with each other. Because – simply put – we don’t do that.

So many of us (and I’m guilty of this too on many occasions) simply see people for their what, and not their who.

For example, I’m a man. I’m 40 years old. I’m white. I have dark hair. I have facial hair. I’m left handed.

Those are my whats. And none of those whats I just listed are real. They’re real things, but I’m not a human thing.

And you’re not either. I’m just saying.

I see things in the news every day that remind me of this. From Sandy Hook to Charlottesville and all stops in between, I see this every time.

People just don’t take the time to see human beings for who they are. They only see what they perceive human beings to be.

Consider that planet Earth has better than 7.4 billion people. And every last one of us look different from each other.

Even identical twins don’t look identically to each other.

Let’s take two random people and take out their hearts and put them on a table. I understand that they’d both die, but I’m just saying.

Who could tell which heart belonged to which person?

We’re all cut from the same cloth. We’re all the same inside. And the sooner we can see that, the sooner we can get real with each other as the most important race – the human race.

What can we do today to start seeing people for their who?

The first step, I believe, is to start seeing ourselves as our who.

Because if we see ourselves as our who, we can start to see others as their who. And if we see our brothers and sisters as their who, that’s what makes this world works!

Coach Ryan's Corner: Your Voice Can Move Mountains

“This is the time of Jed Bartlet, old friend. You’re gonna open your mouth and lift houses off the ground. Whole houses, clear off the ground.” – Leo McGarry (The West Wing – In the Shadow of Two Gunmen – part II)

 

There are a lot of life lessons in The West Wing. I could have chosen any – especially from season 2. In my mind, those are the 22 best episodes of any TV show I’ve ever seen.

Who says that TV can’t be smart and literate anymore? (It’s been off the air since 2006…I’m just sayin’.)

For a little context, this was in a flashback between Leo and Bartlet when Jed was running for president. Leo was trying to instill Bartlet with a bolt of confidence.

He was trying to show his old friend that his voice carried the weight of the world. He could open his mouth and move mountains.

I recently learned a hugely powerful lesson about myself. And this scene is the one that really brought it home.

I was exchanging emails with someone about someone else (no names, gotta keep this vague.) And I made a petty joke about the person I’m writing the email about. And the person to whom I wrote the email called me out on it.

I’ve always used my sense of humor as a crutch. Self-deprecation has been how I got (or so I thought) people to like me. If I could get people to laugh at me, then I’d be liked and appreciated.

While this call out triggered me, I treated it as an opportunity to take a look at something within myself. I treated it as an opportunity to grow.

Ah, who am I kidding? I was kicking and screaming!

But as I was getting complete around this, it hit me.

My voice is important. I’m no longer simply a face in the crowd. My voice is read every week on the Good Men Project – a worldwide platform. My books have a following. My clients hang onto my words. My voice has weight and gravitas in my relationships.

My voice is important. When I empower my voice and the things I say, I could lift houses off the ground. I could move mountains.

And I’ve got something to share with you. You ready?

Come closer…move your phone closer…your computer screen…ready?

I’m serious, can you take this? Can you handle this?

You have the power to move mountains in your life. With only your word, you have the power to move mountains. All you have to do is light your fire and spray it with diesel and kerosene!

Be a king! Be a queen! Go move some houses!

 

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Let’s inspire each other. Let’s encourage each other. Let’s lift each other up.

A Royal Decree

August 4, 2017

 

Dear Team Ryan,

 

This message is to the men or to the men you love.

 

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” – Henry David Thoreau

How many of us can relate to that quote? How many of us lead lives that are beneath us? How many of us live lives unworthy of the magnificent souls we are?

 

Do you feel stuck in a dead-end job because you don’t believe you can do or be more?

Are you in a relationship that’s lost its spark? The passion is gone and the humdrum has set in?

Have you put dreams in storage because it was unrealistic or irresponsible to live your dreams?

Has adulting become a chore?

 

See that? That’s not the life of a king. That’s a peasant.

 

Do you want to put the spark and passion back in your romantic relationships?

Do you want to find a queen or the partner you crave and deserve?

Do you want to take your dreams out of storage?

Do you have a song in your heart that you want to set free?

Do you live a life of the humdrum and want to live as a king?

 

With all this in mind, here’s the announcement!

 

Team Ryan Coaching is now - Royal Hearts Coaching: Life Coaching for Kings!

 

One thing to remember here, I am in process on much of this. I’m going to be creating breakthroughs right along with you!

 

Much more coming in the coming days and weeks.

 

One on one test drive sessions are available – simply email ryan.hall@accomplishmentcoaching.com. Tell me what you’re up to and we’ll set up a time to connect.

 

If a group setting is more your thing, starting in early September is the “Royal Hearts Coaching Court” – royalty or aspiring royalty only please. Email ryan.hall@accomplishmentcoaching.com to enquire.

 

And coming soon is royalheartscoaching.com!

 

Gentlemen, do you want a kingdom? Do you want the queen or partner you deserve? Do you want to live a life worthy of you and your heart?

Let’s build an empire.

Let’s be kings.

Let’s take over the world with our Royal Hearts.

 

With love and gratitude,

King (Coach) Ryan

 

PS. Team Ryan Productions isn’t going anywhere. Magic Time is coming soon. New YouTube content coming soon. ‘tis only the beginning.

Coach Ryan's Corner: Music Heals the Broken

Today, I want to talk about healing.

Make no mistake, a coach isn’t a healer. A coach is a creator. And that shouldn’t be overlooked. If you need healing, see a therapist.

But even coaches need a little touch of healing.

This past Saturday night, I had one of the most emotionally healing experiences I have ever had. Especially since I moved from Alabama.

And it took place less than a mile from my apartment.

Port Chester, NY has an historic theatre called the Capitol Theatre. What started as a movie palace back in the 20s has emerged as one of the NYC Metro Area’s foremost rock and roll palaces. The Grateful Dead loved playing there. Bob Weir of the Dead still loves playing there. And they had Bob Dylan for three straight nights back in June.

Port Chester is less than an hour from NYC. It’s not a large city at all.

Back in April, I learned that my late musician father’s musical hero – Donald Fagen of Steely Dan – would play a solo tour this summer. And the first stops would be at the Cap in Port Chester.

Obviously, I’d be there with bells on and with tears in my eyes. And I will be this Friday night.

But while I was looking for tickets to that show, I learned that Lake Street Dive – one of my newest musical discoveries – would be playing there this past weekend. I couldn’t overlook that.

Now, I credit Tony Hall with a lot of my musical tastes. I wouldn’t be surprised if I was the only white kid at Central High School in Tuscaloosa who dug James Brown and Earth, Wind, and Fire.

Lake Street Dive was a discovery I made after my dad passed away. While I don’t believe he ever heard them, I believe he would have dug them.

 

LSD’s opening act was a band I’d never heard of before called Lawrence. It’s a brother/sister act with a full band and a horn section.

First – they KILLED! And it really set my heart free seeing so many incredibly young musicians playing their hearts out and playing incredible songs!

And by young – I know Clyde Lawrence (the brother and a helluva keyboardist) is only like 24. He’s a phenomenal singer as well.

And I think his sister Gracie (a dynamic singer) may only be 21. She knocked me flat! She’s a tiny little thing but I heard glimpses of Chaka Khan in her voice!

Watch out for Lawrence! I’m sure they’d have the Tony Hall seal of approval. They’ve got the Ryan Hall seal, that’s for sure.

Speaking of dynamic singers – LSD’s Rachael Price could sing the phone book and make it come alive!

Lake Street Dive (I’m not talking about acid here) brings old school sensibilities with a new school flavor that I just adore. And the concert delivered.

All during the show however, I kept thinking – I haven’t felt this alive in years! And my dad was definitely with me!

I have been experiencing some real turmoil in my life lately. Sleep has been at a premium. This has been a period of transition in my life.

When I came home from that show, I slept like a rock. And have had several amazing nights of sleep since then.

I feel like I’ve cut 15 years off my age.

There have been some holes in my life lately. And Saturday night was the putty that filled those gaps.

And this past Saturday night wasn’t even the main event.

I’ll be sure to report next week how Donald Fagen and the Nightflyers goes. I believe it’ll be one of the most emotional musical experiences of my life. And a night I’ll never forget.

While his body won’t be there, my dad’s spirit will be in the seat next to me.

 

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Coach Ryan's Corner: This is the day of the expanding man

It seems like I’ve started treating Coach Ryan’s Corner as “Ryan dissects music lyrics to prove a coaching-related point.” I’m a nerd, what can I say?

Few songs really speak to my soul more than this one. This time, I’m not referring to Yea Alabama.

Steely Dan’s Deacon Blues tells a story of a man who feels downtrodden by life. He gazed through the glass, looking at people living a big life. Y’know, ramblers and gamblers.

He has no support and love. They call him crazy and a fool. He wants to learn to work the saxophone. His friends basically tell him to get drunk on Scotch whisky and die behind the wheel.

I could dissect every line and every verse of that song. And believe me, I have.

I play this song in times of celebration.

  • The first time I played that song for celebration was after my beloved Crimson Tide won their 13th National Championship in 2009.
  • The second – when I received my proof copy of Written in the Stone.
  • The third – after I passed my Accomplishment Coaching exams. Oh, I’m walking down the waterfront in Downtown Manhattan, singing that song at the top of my lungs and crying my eyes out.

This song brings out tears of celebration every time. Lots of tears.

It’s an important song for me. My late father speaks to me through that song.

The more I dissect the words to that song, the more present I am to something incredibly special.

What is a king?

A king is many things. But primarily, a king lives his life on his own terms. A king lives his life at his own speed.

The song’s protagonist is living a life beneath him. He wants to learn to work the saxophone. He sees that as the way he can be a king.

The final line of the final verse gets me every time. And notice I haven’t mentioned the name drop of my Crimson Tide…

"This brother is free.

I'll be what I want to be."

That is a king. Does he ever become a star sax man? Does he ever get the record contract? The live concert album at the Blue Note?

We don’t know. But he’s free from his peasant life. And he’s free to be what he wants to be.

 

A king is the expanding man.

 

Notice that I’ve been using words in this newsletter like “king” and “peasant”. Keep these in mind. I’m going to make a big announcement next week in this space around that.

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Text “teamryan” to 22828 to be the first to hear this announcement!

 

This is the day of the expanding man. Let’s be kings and queens.

Coach Ryan's Corner: Love Comes In Time

My novel, Written in The Stone is titled after two main pieces. The first piece, you’ll have to find out by reading. But the second part is this… In 1979, Earth, Wind, and Fire released their seminal album I Am. And the lead off track is still a staple of their live shows almost 40 years later. In The Stone has a refrain of “true love, peace, strength – is written in the stone.” That’s where the title comes from. And it’s quite thematic to the book. But WITS is really about love. The love my protagonist has for the people in his life and for the world at large. “Love comes in time/chasing away the pain. Inside you’ll find/feelings you can’t explain.” Long-time EWF mainstay Ralph Johnson put out a side project a few years ago called Audio Caviar. The album is phenomenal overall. It’s jazz heavy with some certain world music influences. But the first time I heard the song Love Comes in Time, (featuring Howard Hewett on lead vocals, the incomparable Philip Bailey on backup vocals, and the EWF horns laying down some soul) my reaction was immediate. I cried like a baby. When I first heard it, I’d just been dumped by the woman I thought was the love of my life. I was even low-key looking for a diamond. Granted, this was a blessing in disguise, but I was miserable on many different levels after this. This song tells the story of a man who is at the end of his rope. And the rope might be around his neck. The lesson of the song – and the lesson I’d like to impart on you reading – is this: be patient. There’s no timetable or timeline for finding love. If you trust yourself, the universe, and if you love yourself, then love will find you. “Love comes in time. It’s never too late, you’ll see.” I’m seeing this come true in my own life. And as the law of attraction states – like attracts like. Royal people attracts Royal people. Are you Royal? Let’s talk! Oh, and stop what you’re doing right now and listen to that song. Get on Apple Music, Spotify, or YouTube and listen to this song. RIGHT NOW! And really let it in. It’ll change your life. It changed mine.

My novel, Written in The Stone is titled after two main pieces. The first piece, you’ll have to find out by reading.

But the second part is this…

In 1979, Earth, Wind, and Fire released their seminal album I Am. And the lead off track is still a staple of their live shows almost 40 years later.

In The Stone has a refrain of “true love, peace, strength – is written in the stone.” That’s where the title comes from. And it’s quite thematic to the book.

But WITS is really about love. The love my protagonist has for the people in his life and for the world at large.

“Love comes in time/chasing away the pain. Inside you’ll find/feelings you can’t explain.”

Long-time EWF mainstay Ralph Johnson put out a side project a few years ago called Audio Caviar. The album is phenomenal overall. It’s jazz heavy with some certain world music influences.

But the first time I heard the song Love Comes in Time, (featuring Howard Hewett on lead vocals, the incomparable Philip Bailey on backup vocals, and the EWF horns laying down some soul) my reaction was immediate.

I cried like a baby.

When I first heard it, I’d just been dumped by the woman I thought was the love of my life. I was even low-key looking for a diamond. Granted, this was a blessing in disguise, but I was miserable on many different levels after this.

This song tells the story of a man who is at the end of his rope. And the rope might be around his neck.

The lesson of the song – and the lesson I’d like to impart on you reading – is this: be patient. There’s no timetable or timeline for finding love. If you trust yourself, the universe, and if you love yourself, then love will find you.

“Love comes in time. It’s never too late, you’ll see.”

I’m seeing this come true in my own life. And as the law of attraction states – like attracts like. Royal people attracts Royal people.

Are you Royal? Let’s talk!

Oh, and stop what you’re doing right now and listen to that song. Get on Apple Music, Spotify, or YouTube and listen to this song. RIGHT NOW! And really let it in. It’ll change your life.

It changed mine.

What is Stucktitude?

What is stucktitude?   This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.   Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.   Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.   But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.   The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.   But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!   You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.   Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

What is stucktitude?

 

This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.

 

Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.

 

But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.

 

The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.

 

But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!

 

You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.

 

Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

Copy of What is Stucktitude?

What is stucktitude?   This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.   Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.   Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.   But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.   The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.   But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!   You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.   Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…

What is stucktitude?

 

This is bizarre to me. But this is only edition 3 of Coach Ryan’s Corner, and I find myself at an impasse. At a lagerhead with my creativity. At a loss for words.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, Coach Ryan has writer’s block.

 

Before throwing myself into all the transformational work that I have done on myself, having writer’s block would have caused me a lot of issues. I’d have beaten myself up for not having something witty or pithy to say or some delicious coachy wisdom to impart upon you, my faithful subscribers.

 

But that’s not always the case. And that’s perfectly fine.

 

The lesson here is this. You’re not always going to show up powerfully and purposefully. There will be times when you may be confused and distracted. Consider that the breakdowns inherent in your stucktitude are an opportunity for breakthrough.

 

But the breakthrough doesn’t hit you upside the head with a metal folding chair like Attitude Era WWE. If you want to shift your stucktitude in your life, choose the breakthrough. Choose the new way of being. And level up your life!

 

You don’t have to be stuck. You don’t have to be at the effect your ability to write a powerful paragraph. All you have to do is choose…and your world will open up.

 

Now, if I can only choose to sit down and actually finish my new book…