Coach Ryan's Corner: Be A Warrior for Love

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Since last we spoke, I have learned a lesson of a lifetime. Every time I turn on the news, I see this lesson. Every time I go out in the world, I feel it.

Life is just too short.

Life is too short for holding grudges against people.

Life is too short for incompletion.

Life is too short for the unsaid and unshared “I love you.”

Life is just too short.

Last week, I learned of the passing of the best friend I have ever had. She and I never met in person or spoke, it was all by email and Facebook messenger. Noreen Jent passed away in July of 2016.

Noreen and I were friends for better than 12 years. In that time, she taught me two major things about life.

·      A fellow author, she helped me to discover my voice as a writer.

·      She helped me to find my voice as a man.

You don’t have to be a certain way. You don’t have to say certain things. You’re under one obligation as a man – as a human – and that’s to be unapologetically yourself.

And part of who I am, is – let’s face it – I’m a teddy bear. I’m an easy, warm guy. But do not mess with me.

I like to think of myself as a warrior for love.

If we had more warriors for love, then those 20 kids in Newtown would have just started Middle School by now. Instead, there were way too many caskets that were way too small. If we had more warriors for love, those 58 families wouldn’t be burying their loved ones after going to a concert in Vegas – to say nothing of the over 500 wounded. If we had more warriors for love, the Twin Towers might still be standing in Downtown Manhattan. If we had more warriors for love, we might not have seen Hitler’s rise to power.

Life is too short for grudges.

Life is too short for incompletion.

Life is too short to keep “I love you” in your pocket.

Life is just too short.

Noreen, thank you for this. Thank you for helping me find my voice. And thank you for helping lay the groundwork for me being a warrior for love.

 

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